Why are My kids so bad???
We often hear that children’s behavior is so much worse than they were just a few years ago. It seems like everybody has a different answer… and it seems like nothing is working. So today I would like to take a look at a few things that might be causing some of this. By far I’m just going to scratch the surface of the problem.
The first thing I would like to look at is time. I feel one of the big changes today from just a generation ago is how much quality time is spent with your children. Think about all the distractions today… Making a living, personal time, internet, phones, TV, video games, hobbies, and many more. How much quality time are you really spending with your family? When was the last time you gave a day or a weekend to your family? I can hear the excuses now… Stressful day or week at work, tired, household chores to do, need time for friends, or need time to enjoy my hobbies just to name a few. Your family needs you and your time! Sometimes children today get in trouble just so they can get some of your time and attention. It’s time to take a hard look at why your children are having problems.
The next item I would like to look at is respect. Does your child actually respect you? Thats remember respect is a two-way street. Your child needs to respect you but also you need to respect and love your child. You cannot demand respect… it must be earned every day. In Colossians 3:21 we find, “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.” Respect is earned through love and trust. You need to be honest and truthful in all things with your child. Your child will learn from you and respect will grow.
My final item I would like to talk about today is your example. In Proverbs 22:6 says “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Please understand your children are watching every minute of every day. You are their example on how to live. They see you when you are mad and learn that reaction. Things like yelling at another driver while in the car or see you argue and fight with your spouse. Remember they are watching and learning from you. They also see and learn the good things you do. If your reactions are calm and peaceful when things happen to you, Your children will learn to have the same reaction. When they see you go to church, pray to god, read the Bible, help others, and give of yourself… they learn these things from you. In Titus 2:7 it says “In all things show yourself to be an example of good deeds, with purity in doctrine, dignified” So be a Great example of an adult so your children will know how to be an adult when they grow up.
I thank you for reading my blog. I do not claim to be any expert or affiliated with any religious organization. All I can say is that I’m affiliated with my Lord Jesus Christ. This is one man’s opinion and observation. My hope is I stirred up some thoughts for you to think about. There is one place that we can find all the answers to life. That road map is Commonly known as the Bible. If you want the answers to life all you have to do is read. If you would like me to pray with you or want to send a comment please email me at Bob.L@magnificentpromises.com
For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16