Strange title…”Don’t die with you dead.” So many people stop living when a loved one dies. They just quit living. They are consumed completely by the loved one’s death. I know the one who passed away wouldn’t want them to stop living. This week I would like to share an article written by Andrew Mclaren on how he dealt with the sudden death of his son. As Christians we know there is life after death, and this is just a temporary separation from our loved one. I hope this help someone.
Did you know that when you cry for your dead, you cry for you and not them? You cry because you “lost them”, because you don’t HAVE THEM by your side. You think it all ends in death. And you think they are NOT there anymore. Not so, if they are not dead, where are they?
Yes, they have left this world, and they are now somewhere else, is that place better than this? Heaven is definitely that place is better than this; so Why do you suffer for their departure? When you have finished accepting that they are no longer “NOT here“, but they are in another place better than this… a place where they are no longer sick, or suffering. Then you’ll stop mourning them and you’ll get them back in the form of memories. They will now accompany you throughout your life giving you joy and happiness.
Today, there will be no more reproach of any kind… Only love. I respect your pain, and the way you express it. I know you cry, and you will cry without comfort.But… Today I say to you: Don’t die with your dead. Remember we are only seeing one side of the coin (death). We cannot see the other side (Life). We are not seeing the wonderful place of light (Heaven). We need to start seeing “death” as a Second Birth? This is a step into eternal life that we will ALL will go through. Don’t die with your dead, honor them by living your life as they would have wanted you to. Let them transcend. And you keep living. Written by Andrew Mclaren – This perspective is not for everyone, but this has really helped me deal with the sudden death of our adult son several years ago.
